Thursday, April 22, 2010

Tell Me Its Just a Phase

I post a lot about how cute I think my kids are, fun stuff we do, new milestones, etc. This post is different. This post is a dose of reality. This post is me screaming to my mommy blogger friends for encouragement!!!!!

Where to begin...Oh, I know, easy one...lets start with the fact that my two boys are a mere 18 months apart. Maddox will be 3 in June, Cruz is almost 17 months. They both seem to be at hard stages at the same time. The mornings, well lets just say, there is no more sitting watching cartoons, mommy drinking coffee, boys holding blankeys and being sleepy and sweet.



(don't let this photo fool you;))






From the time Maddox gets up it goes something like this: Mommy, I need to potty, where is my milk, my mild isn't warm, can I play upstairs, I don't want breakfast, i want candy, mommy, where are my monster trucks, I can't find them, mommy, WHERE ARE MY MONSTER TRUCKS, WAAAAAHAAAA..........
At the same time is Cruz: needs a diaper, mommy changes it, he goes poopy, mommy changes it again, mommy feeds him breakfast, he feeds it to the dog, mommy gets him dressed, cruz spills juice down his shirt, cruz goes into daddys office, pulls out lots of papers that seem to be important, scribbles on them with a pen, mommy finds him, cruz goes upstairs with brother, lots of screaming, mommy runs upstairs, brother has tackled him, bring Cruz back downstairs, Cruz wanders to the kitchen, plays in dog food and water.....
You get the idea....its never ending....
And Maddox is the main source of my stress at the moment. Its his behavior. I'm hoping he is just a normal almost 3 year old and will grow out of this. But, he is getting in trouble constantly.

Any time I ask him to do something its "NO!". I warn him with time out, "NO!". I send him to the corner, he runs out, I send him back, he runs out, I physically have to hold him there while he screams......its right out of an episode from the 'SuperNanny'.

Here's another scenario: Its time to get dressed for the day. NOOOOOOOOOO! (I secretly dread this everyday because it is so horrible). Maddox HATES to get dressed. He wiggles, he screams, he kicks, he fights me the whole time. Once he's dressed, he snaps out of it. I on the other hand need a tranquilizer.

Oh, and then there is school. He has started getting in trouble at school. I picked him up last week and they told me he spent lots of time in "Time Out". Great. I asked Maddox why when we left, he said "Cause I hit boys, and guys". Nice.

What am I missing here fellow Mommies?? Am I doing something wrong? Is this normal or is my kid gonna be a huge trouble maker???

Gotta go, the kids are upstairs and it has been REALLY quiet for about 10 minutes, that is never a good sign....

7 comments:

Jill said...

Oh, you poor girl! My oldest son went through his "terrible twos" at age 3. He was AWFUL at age 3. I'm no expert, but it seems that because you're so busy with Cruz, Maddox is getting used to getting away with murder. He knows you're too busy to really do anything about it, so he does whatever he wants. The only way I know to make him stop is to come down on him really hard when he does something wrong. I'm not really pro-spanking, but I'll be honest, when my kids were all around the age of 3, they got spanked a few times. They learn real quick who's boss, and then you don't really have to keep doing it. Then you can say "If you get out of the time out chair, you're getting a spanking." Boys are just tough...they're wild and stubborn. I think it's important, too, to talk to them about it. Get down on their level and look right in their eyes and tell them that you don't like it when they do this or that. Then tell them what does make you happy. This is just what worked for me. Just remember, they will be out of this stage in no time. They will get a little bigger and it will be so much easier for you. Just having them both out of diapers will be huge. Hang in there! It will get better!

Walking With The Wheats said...

Oh girl! You are not alone! This is my life!! Owen, almost 3, is a handfull! He wants to carry his sister everywhere (she is 6 months) he tries to climb in her crib. He doesn't want what I fix for breakfast, lunch or dinner (EVER)!! In public, its worse!! Trust me, you are not alone!!

Christie Huggins said...

u made me belly laugh....lol....oh, girl! i secretly HATE meal times..."Blake, don't play with your food...Lauren, you either! blake take a bite..."NO!!!"....Blake, TAKE A BITE!!!...."NOOOOOOO!!!! AAGGGHHH!!!!" Blake, I am going to count to three....1....2....3....Fine...I'll do it for you....then he finally takes a bite on his own. I could cry with every meal. Then naptime....oh. my. goodness....can I borrow your tranquilizers?

Amanda Rooney said...

Oh dear....in my humble (but accurate-heehee) opinion...boy's don't hit the "terrible" until THREE!! Remember - girls usually mature faster than boys - so they get the terrible twos.

What about all that positive reinforcement CR*P? (I know it's supposed to work for some people) Is there something Maddox REALLY wants to do? Or place he wants to go that would encourage him to want to get dressed? Tell him you'll let him do it himself...only BIG boys get to dress themselves...blah blah blah...

And don't be alarmed about the whole school thing- it's okay if your kid has to sit in time out. In five years are you still gonna be stressed out about him sitting in time out in preschool? Absolutely not. Unfortunately, there might be a kid that hits him back one day, and then Maddox will realize how badly it hurts. Then, he'll probably stop hitting others. It's not always easy to be a mom of boys - but you gotta remember that God created them. And He created testosterone. It's in their genes to be rough.

Prayin' for you sister!!! Oh - and have you read James Dobson's Bringing Up Boys? Great book. And he says they're supposed to be rough too!!!

Brandi said...

I'm in your same shoes!!! My daughter's fave word is NO! She has to wear certain clothes or she throws fits. She is just a very demanding child. Some days I feel I'm going to lose it. That's when I drink a glass of wine and it seems to get better...HAHA!!!

John, Brittney, and Trevor said...

I stopped by your blog because I also I have a little boy named Cruz. Not a common name and I thought cool, another Cruz. Super cute boys by the way.
So, about a month before my Trevor turned 3 (he is 4 now, and yes we survived) I thought he was possessed. ha ha. He went from perfect to whoa. I called my husband and said ummm, I think on the way home I am going to stop by the church and pray for this baby. Of course I was kidding (kinda)but we were consistant and eventually he returned to his normal self 80% of the time anyway which was a huge improvement.
Hang in there, your very busy right now but think about how boring life will be when the boys are all grown up and moved out. I catch myself in a stressful situation saying one day I am actually going to miss this and try to enjoy and take it all in (good and bad) before it's gone.
I don't know you but I can tell from your blog your a great mom and you'll get through it promise!!

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